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#12 : What's in the Name ?

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  What's in the Name? Name is Sweetest voice which people want to hear, and you might have heard various methods on how to remember one's name. We also feel Awkward, get embarrassed if we call someone with wrong, or misspelt names.   I think There is Something OR Everything in the Name, as to how we perceive.             According to Dale Carnegie, the name is one thing which a person loves to be addressed. It becomes one of the many things which he mentions to connect with people. On Other side, if we see if we call rose with some other name, it will look the same and will smell beautiful, so What's in the name? What's in the name could be a state, where which everyone may aspire to reach to, which would mean any such things do not impact you. Another perspective is when transformation happens when Narendra transforms into Swami Vivekananda When Agnes becomes Mother Teresa or   Siddharth Becomes Buddha. ...

#11 : Parrot and Couple

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  " Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. " Stephen R. Covey. Seek not to be understood, but to understand. "When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new ".             I want to emphasize this through the small story. There   was a parrot in the house of a couple, who were very religious and use to daily visit temple and attend the discourses of the Gurus. They were very regular in going and listening to them asking and getting their quires resolved. One day Parrot asked them if they would do them a favor and ask a question for him. The couple obliged and asked him what question he wanted to check with Guruji?   He replied if they can ask him "when he will be released from Cage? "             The couple asked the same question to Guru, but...

#10 : It's not about Right or Wrong !!!

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    It's Not About Right or Wrong Some of you might have seen Sridevi's Movie English-Vinglish, it thought me a fundamental lesson of being non-Judgmental.   A question triggered me; why do people judge? Why do people get biased? And What are these Biases?  And I decided to research on same and hence below the blog.   Two months ago, our Customer documentation team sent a notification regarding usage of few words, like whitelist & Blacklist, Master & slave. How come we were using these for so long? As my title says it's not about right or wrong, it's all began due to our social infrastructure and Society we live. This is not by chance, it trickled in unconsciously and now its time to be aware and be conscious and correct ourselves. Why these biases so important?   It is because DAILY we make lots of choices, choose options and make decisions, unconsciously based on these biases. So, if we know them, we can be conscious while taking /mak...

#9 : Threes H's and Four I's - Memorize faster

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  Memorize Faster – 3H's and 4I's        Nowadays we get lots of information from various sources, we listen to things, we read, we discuss, and all that goes inside us. But how of much of that we remember?   What we do that information , we either forward or forget. We don't memorize or try to remember or implement.         Why don't we action the learnings  in our lives? Why don't we remember things we learn and seemingly important? Because, it didn't touch your heart, or didn't inspire you to inherit, absorb, instil your lives.  Let's assume you got inspired by the speaker or by reading or listening( Information ) , now you don't know how to implement , what to do next to get it in your lives. You need some method which you can follow to implement . Once you get the procedure to follow, you  integrate   through all above. There is a simple formula of how to memorize or action what we learn duri...

#8 : Four Seasons

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    Four Seasons   There are four Season as we know Winter, Spring, Summer, & Rainy or Autumn. Each Season brings different aspects, and it's like our life which not same always and keeps changing like seasons. It depicts us change is constant.   Let's Start with Winter; this is my personal favourite; people usually go on hibernate and doesn't come out. But in these difficult times, life has to go on, When I was in UK and   when it uses to snow also , if kids have football classes, everyone comes with all gears on and complete classes,     that's the spirit whatever happens life should move on. I have never seen anything got cancelled because of weather or any conditions. People live, cherish and enjoy life what's been offered to them and whatever are the circumstances around.   Then Comes spring, this is the best Season as it comes just after winter, here you come out and meet your loved ones and beauty all around. There are flowe...

#7 : Wake Up - Choose

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  Wake Up – Choose On a Friday night a  man drank heavily while returning home he got bruises. After reaching home, he quickly went to the bathroom and dressed up his bruises and swiftly slipped into his bedroom without being noticed by anyone. Next day When is Woke up his wife asked him, did you had drink yesterday, he Confidently said No I didn't, as he knew no one noticed while he came home. Man's wife dragged him to the bathroom and pointed towards the mirror , where all the band-aids were put instead on his body bruises !!!  AND this is what happens with us every day where we put band-aids on the mirror, not on ourselves where the bruises are !!!   We don't try to fix ourselves, and we have to wake up and take action on the path chosen or things we want to repair . We always feel another person has to be corrected or she/he has to better themselves and we are right. But in most of the cases, it is opposite, and it is we who has to change not the other person. We...

#6: Relationships investment

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  Relationships investment     I would say successful Relationships needs an investment of time and emotions. Higher the investment, closer they become.   1.     Can you name the five wealthiest people in the world? 2.     OR Name the last five winners of the Miss Universe? 3.     OR Name the last ten people who won the Nobel Prize for Physics?   How did you do?   The point is we don't remember yesterday's headline, even though these were talented people, and were in the news.   Awards are tarnished, and achievements are forgotten. Here's another quiz: Let's see how this goes:  1.     Name your five favourite teachers who shaped your life? 2.     Name your five friends who helped you through difficult times. 3.     Name five people you enjoy spending time with.   Easier....right?    The people who make a diff...

#5 : Every Problem has a Solution

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  Every problem has a Solution   I think we need proper perspective, attitude and right-thinking to reach a solution. How many of us always be on solution mindset, that means we still want to resolve the issue, find solutions. Usually, people have their default settings as "no". You ask something someone to do, 1st you will receive an answer as No, and then once you tell details, pursue you may be talking towards an agreement   According to studies done, we have two kinds of mindsets Fixed and growth mindset. In growth mindset we keep learning, we are flexible, we try to fix, we let go, we understand, we go for solutions.  One anecdote which I wanted to share. There was an old man who died and left 17 camels to be divided among his three sons.   He told that his 1st son should get half of the camels, 2nd son should get one-third camels, and 3rd son one-ninth camels. So, if you see none of it divides by 17. They started fighting and trying to see how ...

#4: Daily Rituals - Install these !!!

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Rituals are a series of actions performed in a prescribed manner regularly whenever it is done. So, let us take a vow to do /work on few Daily rituals to bring in the change in your lives.   1.      (Exercise Ritual) First Ritual I want you to adopt is of Daily Exercise Ritual . As we know, Health is wealth, but the irony is that when we have Health in younger age, we go after wealth and once we have accumulated wealth we use the same for curing health ailments. So why not preserve Health and wealth from beginning. 2.      (Gratitude Ritual) Second on, I want you all to adopt is Paying Gratitude. T o be thankful and be appreciative of people around us. We have so many people impacting our lives daily, extending support etc. We have been miser in saying simple Thankyou with a smile. So, with this Ritual, we should extend Gratitude towards all such person around us which we are interacting and impacting us. 3.      (...

#3 : It's Okay - Don't Loose Yourself

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Its OK      At our homes, we have seen from our childhood our parents and later in lives our spouses. They all strive to be best or perfect; to do that, they try to please the rest of the family. This quest of theirs's  sometimes leave them exhausted, and actually, there is no such need. Also, this leads us to pestering requests and unreasonable expectations. I want to bring to you all is one crucial takeaway which I read recently.     Don't expect A+ in every aspect of your life . It's OK to have B, which also means Very Good.  Let me explain. Do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work .   You all are the backbone of families, but I have also observed that you always strive for best ( which it is OK,   but not at your own expense ), and want to be a perfectionist and in this journey, you never get time for yourself   " Me Time." You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can...