My Reflections , My insights

  From Vivad towards Samvaad (Ways for Better conversations ) 1.      We are not listening to each other. As Steven Covey said, we need to listen to understand.   We don't have a balance between talking and listening. Some people prefer one or other, which causes an imbalance in two people conversation. Don't listen to reply, listen to Understand and later discuss. 2.      We now prefer more texting than conversations and face to face interactions. Human interaction missing or avoided nowadays. 3.      We should NOT multitask while having a conversation with anyone. Be present in the situation and focus. 4.      Listen without any judgement, listen to understand as said in 1 st point. As soon as we start listening, we judge based on our unconscious biases. 5.      Avoid argument, have Discussion two way. Move from Vivaad to ( argument ) to Samvaad (Discussion). In D...

  " Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. " Stephen R. Covey. Seek not to be understood, but to understand. "When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new ".             I want to emphasize this through the small story. There   was a parrot in the house of a couple, who were very religious and use to daily visit temple and attend the discourses of the Gurus. They were very regular in going and listening to them asking and getting their quires resolved. One day Parrot asked them if they would do them a favor and ask a question for him. The couple obliged and asked him what question he wanted to check with Guruji?   He replied if they can ask him "when he will be released from Cage? "             The couple asked the same question to Guru, but...