My Reflections , My insights

  From Vivad towards Samvaad (Ways for Better conversations ) 1.      We are not listening to each other. As Steven Covey said, we need to listen to understand.   We don't have a balance between talking and listening. Some people prefer one or other, which causes an imbalance in two people conversation. Don't listen to reply, listen to Understand and later discuss. 2.      We now prefer more texting than conversations and face to face interactions. Human interaction missing or avoided nowadays. 3.      We should NOT multitask while having a conversation with anyone. Be present in the situation and focus. 4.      Listen without any judgement, listen to understand as said in 1 st point. As soon as we start listening, we judge based on our unconscious biases. 5.      Avoid argument, have Discussion two way. Move from Vivaad to ( argument ) to Samvaad (Discussion). In D...

  You will find great relief, if you are disturbed.    Once Buddha was traveling with a few of his followers. While they were passing a lake, Buddha told one of his disciples, "I am thirsty. Do get me some water from the lake."  The disciple walked up to the lake.   At that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy and turbid.   The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink?"   So, he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy.  I don't think it is fit to drink."   After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake. The disciple went back and found that the water was still muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same. After some time, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back. This time, the disciple found the mud had settled down, and the water was c...

 33% - Thirty Three Percent    'We make a living by what we get,  but we make a life by what we give  "  Said Winston Churchill.   It was a gloomy day, besides the roaring ocean waves along the beach, there was a large army anxiously waiting to cross the Ocean.  Rama, Lakshman and their Monkey army were distressed, waiting to cross the Ocean to reach Lanka.  All of them came to know that Sita is in Lanka, and they were struggling to find an appropriate person who could cross the same. Agand, the crown prince, said he is still small, to go, Jambvant was old, others also were expressing the disability to cross the Ocean. Hanuman sat quietly and listened to all this, not sure of his capabilities, whether he could do or not. Then Jambavant the  old and wise bear  approached him and reminded him about his abilities and capabilities as What he can do. Realizing the same Hanuman got the confidence, and he crossed th...