My Reflections , My insights

  It's not about right or Wrong  #Breaking the Bias This year's IWD theme is #Breaking the Bias. So let us understand and talk about the same. I always talk about being non-Judgmental and gave the example of Sridevi’s Movie, English-Vinglish. In that movie, we saw how Sridevi broke the Bias and took up the challenge to Break the Bias. But why, in the first instance, people judge? Why do people get biased? And What are these Biases?     There has been a constant and conscious effort by corporates, Society to remove, break and Stop the biases. But old habits die hard; we all have to deliberate in what we do in our daily lives. Last year, the Customer documentation team sent a notification restricting the usage of a few words, like whitelist & Blacklist, Master & slave. From ages, we have been using those words. How come we were using these for so long, as my title says, it's not about right or Wrong; it’s all began due to our social infrastructure and the ...

  Waiting and Waiting For When the farmer sows the seed, he has to wait for the plant to sprout. That’s already been work in progress, but if he becomes anxious about why sprout has not come and daily checks, he will become stressed. Things will happen at their own pace and time.             There is a subtle difference between “waiting” and “waiting for.” Which leads to peaceful progress and Stressful success ; if we keep thinking, why isn’t it happening? Why not yet? You will get stressed, and, even if seed eventually sprouts, farmer has traded peace for success.             You might have seen people waiting for an elevator; they keep pressing button to call the lift as if it will come fast. It will arrive at its own speed. They lose their peace. If you have gone for dinner and ordered, you have to just wait … waiting for the waiter will make the wait exaspera...

  Self-Discovery Have you ever been in self-Realisation or discovery mode? I think as age progresses, it automatically comes to you when you sometimes take a pause and think, introspect. And the same happened to me around a year ago. Mind is like Parachute; it needs to be open to work. This is what exactly meditation is. Reflect upon your negative thoughts and reframe them into positive thoughts. I will bring up a recent use case that has taught me many things. A year ago, there was a surge of attrition in my team. (I will not go into WHY?), will focus on what elements it has taught me during that course. I thought all was within my Control, OR I would say I was controlling things, but indeed that was not there. I was trying to control everything and failing and then blaming myself. A sudden surge of Self-Doubt occurred to me. Is it because of me? Whether I can handle the situation? And in this scenario, I tried to be judgemental. I started thinking I did so much for them,...

  I want to see chips flying There was a woodcutter who was very sincere and hardworking. He used to make his living by cutting wood and selling across. He was happy with his work, and life was going on. One day a businessman came across and liked his work; he said, “I would give you double of what you earn, come and work with me. “             Seeing the double salary, he happily started working for him. Woodcutter gave the axe and asked him to cut the wood from the round end of an axe (from the other blunt side). The woodcutter was puzzled, but he didn’t think much as he thought he was getting a double salary, so why bother.             Continuing with the same work, day by day; eventually, he got fed up with his work. He quit the job; the businessman asked why so, as he is getting a double salary, why bother. He said, “ he loved seeing the chips fly. I want challen...

  Seven Vadas Once a starving man was walking on the street looking for something to eat and, he saw a “Vada” stall by the side of the road. And a lot of people we around busy in savoring the Vadas. He approached him and asked him, “ Will this Vada Satisfy my hunger ??”   And what are the charges for it? “    Vada vendor replied, “ Yes definitely for sure and quoted the rate Rs10/-.                 Hungry man ate one Vada, and he was still hungry; he ate 2 nd , 3 rd , 4 th, and likewise, after having 7 th Vada, he felt full and satisfied. He then handed Rs10 to Vada Wala; He got Zapped as he was expecting Rs70/-, the hungry man replied, “Haven’t   I asked you whether your Vada will satisfy my hunger and to that, you said   Yes. When I ate the first six Vada, I was still hungry; only the 7 th Vada of yours’ s satisfied my hunger.   Hence only 10 Rupees for 7 th Vada. So, the...

  Memories Memories are the Mental impressions that we leave in our minds as we grow and days pass by. We always say OLD is GOLD, and it is so true we have so many golden memories with us.                Our brain is so strong that it records everything from our childhood and creates folders later to be accessed, called Memories. Whenever we get any occasions, we should create memories to be relished in future. It's not living in the past; it's just reliving those cherished moments. Nowadays, we click photos and have them on our phones ( I don’t know if people revisit them, but they feel they have captured them ). Best memories are captured in your mind; enjoy the moment when it comes instead of just clicking photos.                Few of my earliest memories. 1.      One of my earliest memories is, which my parents ...

  Getting the World Right                A man was reading a newspaper on a Sunday morning. He was leisurely sitting beside the window where the sunlight was coming making him enjoy the experience. He was so engrossed that he could not pay attention to his little daughter, who insisted on him playing along with her.                As he was in the middle of paper reading and wanted to complete it. Still, at the same time, his daughter insisted on playing. To buy some time, he saw a newspaper ad with a world map of a courier company. He tore the paper into several pieces and told his daughter to arrange and solve that jigsaw puzzle.                He thought he got enough time now to finish his paper, but within 10 minutes, his daughter solved the puzzle and insisted him...

  Big and Small   Ramayana Stories have such deep insight, sharing one of the insights below. From the incident, the Monkeys were making the bridge over sea to go to Lanka to fight with Ravana. Rama asked his army to build the bridge over the sea. Monkeys pulled the rocks and stones from mountains and started making the bridge. It was a tedious and challenging task; thousands of monkeys were on the job. Rama was blissful seeing the effort and love for him which made them do this.                One day Rama saw little Squirrel carrying small pebbles in her mouth and dropping it onto the sea. As Monkeys were holding big stones, little Squirrel was dragging small pebbles and dropping them onto the sea, little Squirrel was coming in between the path, and monkeys had to take care so that they didn’t step on the little Squirrel. One of Monkey shouted in his booming voice,” hey little thing, you are coming o...