#47: #Choices in Life

 


  Choices in Life

 It was a quiet room with dim lights, rhythmic Beep, bip, bip sound from the monitors, making the atmosphere perturbed. Various tubes were coming out of the patient’s body in ICU, making way to monitors for analysis of vital statistics. A nurse Named Bronnie Ware was sitting near the patients  and  trying to question her terminally ill patients about

1.     If any regrets they had or

2.      anything they would do differently,

and Surprisingly, common themes surfaced again and again. She researched this for eight years, Which turned into a best seller. 

            When our kids are in teenage, we have seen that they try making choices for their careers.   Even if they wanted to pursue a profession bit unconventional like being poet, writer, painter, drama artist, fitness expert. BUT somehow, they bury their dreams due to societal pressure, pursue what they don’t like, and choose conventional streams. And this was the most common regret of all.

 I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. So it's our Choices, what we decide. It’s never too late to pursue your dreams.

            On a Sunday morning, when everyone was lazing around, one of my friends was engrossed in his office work. His little daughter came to him and asked Dad, “Can you lend me Rs 5000”. He got puzzled and asked her why she needed such a significant amount? She politely replied, “Dad, I want to buy your time/day for me so that you can be with me for a whole day and spend time with me. “

And this was the second regret; I wish I didn’t work so Hard. It came from every patient who was working. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.   By simplifying lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to get time for yourself. This is “MeTime.” Make yourself a priority.

Sometimes, people don't express themselves due to family or Society pressures or keeping peace with others. As a result, they settle for mediocrity. And this was 3rd regret; I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. It is a known fact that to maintain relationships, we need expression, not suppression of feelings.

 And this not only feeling of LOVE, but it applies to your Spouses, children, friends, peers. And this includes gratitude; if you feel good about someone, please write or tell them how much you love them OR how much you are grateful.

            Most of us caught so much in our lives that we let our golden friendship slip over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort they deserved. And this is the fourth regret I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. At least for me, this is one of the essential parts of life. So, whoever you are thinking of now, please take time out   TO talk to them TODAY during the day!!!

  The fifth regret is surprisingly the common one. I wish that I had let myself be happier. And many of us don’t realize until the end that happiness is a choice. How wonderful it be that we let go of things and smile again,  

Life is a choice. And It is YOUR life. It includes you as well, Whole life most of the patients Lived for others, So

Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly AND

Choose Life, Choose Love, Choose Health   AND Choose Happiness. As said by Nelson Mandela, May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears. “


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