#47: #Choices in Life
Choices in Life
It was a quiet room
with dim lights, rhythmic Beep, bip, bip sound from the monitors, making the
atmosphere perturbed. Various tubes were coming out of the patient’s body in
ICU, making way to monitors for analysis of vital statistics. A nurse Named Bronnie Ware was sitting near the
patients and trying to question her terminally ill
patients about
1.
If any regrets
they had or
2.
anything they
would do differently,
and Surprisingly,
common themes surfaced again and again. She researched this for eight years, Which turned
into a best seller.
When our kids are in teenage, we
have seen that they try making choices for their careers. Even if they wanted to
pursue a profession bit unconventional
like being poet, writer, painter, drama artist, fitness expert. BUT somehow, they
bury their dreams due to societal pressure, pursue what they don’t like, and choose
conventional streams. And this was the most common regret of all.
I wish I’d had the courage to
live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
So it's our Choices, what we decide. It’s never too late to pursue your dreams.
On a Sunday morning, when everyone was lazing around, one of my friends was engrossed in his office work.
His little daughter came to him and asked Dad, “Can you lend me Rs 5000”. He got puzzled and asked her why she
needed such a significant amount? She politely replied, “Dad, I want to buy your time/day for me so that you can be with me for
a whole day and spend time with me. “
And this was the second regret; I wish I didn’t work so Hard. It came from every
patient who was working. They missed their
children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. By
simplifying lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is
possible to get time for yourself. This is “MeTime.” Make yourself a
priority.
Sometimes,
people don't express themselves due to family or Society pressures or keeping
peace with others. As a result, they settle for mediocrity. And this was 3rd regret; I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. It
is a known fact that to maintain relationships, we need expression, not suppression of feelings.
And this not only feeling
of LOVE, but it applies to your Spouses,
children, friends, peers. And this includes gratitude; if you feel good
about someone, please write or tell them
how much you love them OR how much you are grateful.
Most of us caught so much in our
lives that we let our golden friendship slip over the years. There were many
deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort they deserved.
And this is the fourth regret I wish I had stayed in touch with my
friends. At least for me, this is one of the essential parts
of life. So, whoever you are thinking of now, please take time out TO talk
to them TODAY during the day!!!
The fifth regret is surprisingly the common
one. I wish
that I had let myself be happier. And many of us
don’t realize until the end that happiness is a choice. How wonderful it be that we let go of things and smile again,
Life is a
choice. And It is YOUR life. It includes you as well, Whole
life most of the patients Lived for others, So
Choose
consciously, choose wisely,
choose honestly AND
Choose Life, Choose Love, Choose Health AND Choose Happiness. As said by Nelson Mandela, “May your choices
reflect your hopes, not your fears. “
Very good article Rajesh
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