#36: Four T's ( Time , Talk , Trust & Touch )

 

Four Pillars - 4Ts (Time, Talk, Trust & Touch)

 

The people who make a difference in your life are NOT the ones with prestigious awards and have loads of money!!  They are around us, our family, friends, colleagues!!!  Cherish their crucial relationship!!  Hold Them Tight. 

Relationships are machines that can break down and need maintenance. So, we need to take good care of the Same.

               Some time ago, in a usual evening, I was relaxing on a cosy sofa, in my drawing-room, with yellow lights from chandelier making patterns on the walls, enriching the ambience around me.  There was murmuring on the TV, I was checking my WhatsApp feed, and suddenly one ghost type image covered me, don't worry she was my wife, (and BTW she is pretty J as an angel ), she was standing nearby me, without being noticed by me. 

She skeptically made eye contact with me. And then she sarcastically, asked, "Can I get some time from you for a talk? ".  I was Embarrassed, Withdrawn, feeling detested that she had to ask for that!!!

From that time, I started blocking Time for my Loved ones, which I call Family time. This is the time I am with my family, w/o any digital intervention. We go for a walk, we discuss, we argue, we party, and more importantly, we TALK.

 

Once a Little girl and her father were crossing a small rope bridge. The father was kind of scared, so he asked his little daughter, "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."

Captivatingly little girl said, 'No, Dad. You hold my hand.'

Puzzled father asked? 'What's the difference?' 

'There's a big difference,' replied the little girl. 'If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go.'  In any relationship, the essence of Trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So, hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours.

               You might have seen the movie "Munna Bhai MBBS". The main crux of the movie was "Zaddu ki Jhappi "meaning Hugging. This is our Fourth "T, Touch. You might not have realised why it is so important, because this is the 1^st Emotion we experience when we come into this world. Our Mothers cuddled us in their arms and gave us a sense of protectiveness. That's why when we hug someone, we release Oxytocin, which gives a sense of happiness. 

               Relationships are investments, Higher the investment of these Four Pillars of Relationships, 4T's (Time, Talk, Trust & Touch) in a relationship, the closer they become.

 

               Relationships are like Plants; they blossom when we nourish them. So, keep nourishing these four Pillars of relationships. To blossom your relationships.