#28 #Beta all will be Well

 

Beta, all will be Well  

 Chinmay, “wake up”, “wake up” it’s already 9 O’clock, I could hear his Mom in her loud voice.  Chinmay, my Son, who was sleeping like a log, without seeing her, fluttered his blanket and covered his face and sleep more comfortably knowing that if Mom is saying nine means, it would somewhere around 8 or 830, and this is his 1^st wakeup call.

 And this was a scene in our house for 2-3 months after the XIIth Board Exams, when my son was waiting for his results and college admissions.( 3years ago 2017-18)  Anxiety and Anxiousness were at its peak.  We were feeling like we are strapped in a chair, sitting in front of an open door. But we knew the situation, so we use to HUG him and say “Beta, all will be well “- Believe in Yourself. “

             One day he shouted with excitement from his room, “Papa”, “Mom”!!!, we rushed to his room, and our hearts were thudding with excitement we came to know he got selected in prestigious college (XXXX) and shortly he got more selections in other prestigious colleges.  Finally, with due considerations, we made an informed choice of Electronics in XXXX.

                After we made admission another round of anxiousness started looming around of leaving him, and again we use to HUG him and say “Beta, all will be well “.  We reached to the Goa Campus; we were Awestruck by seeing Campus spread across 200 acres, Lush Green environment, with all Modern facilities and illustrated faculties and luckily, he got newly built Hostel as well. My Wife and I were pleased seeing all this and told ourselves that He would be well.

             Finally, the day came when we must see him off. The college had arranged a short trip for students. We had to drop him off at 9 am and then we had a flight back post noon. The bus came, he quickly came to us hugged us, touched our feet and controlling his emotions he ran back to the coach and sat, and started waving hands.

             Emotionally exhilarating, I was standing with my wife and younger son, suddenly I heard a sobbing voice from behind, I looked around, and he was my younger son, as soon as I made eye contact, he hugged me, leaned on my shoulders and erupted without any warning.  Seeing all this whole atmosphere became emotional. And again, we said to him Beta, do not worry he will be well !!!

            I was so confident that he will do good, I want to corroborate with a small story. Two neighbours were living adjacent to each other, one young and another old gentleman. They grew plants simultaneously just beside each other boundaries. Young Man use to give a lot of Manure, fertilizer, regular water, so his plant grew very fast and tall, while an old man uses to provide consistent water and some manure and left to nature, so it was a small plant.

             One night there was a thunderstorm, next morning both got up and to young man surprise he saw that his plant was destroyed, while the old man was intact standing, he asked an old man the reason that why so. He explained that he gave just enough to plant so he made his plant to grow deep and make root strong and find its way to gather nutrients to survive, while young person provided everything with ease, so there was no effort made by plant hence roots were not so strong to sustain for long.

            It is the case for all of us; we overdo for our kids by providing things before they ask, we pamper them too much and not let them take decisions, we make decisions for them.  We don’t allow them to fail a getup and try again and again. We don’t let them strive for.

So, we need to make them more independent as they can so they can face challenges of life with greater grit when the time comes!!!  And of course, all will be well.